18 Things Everyone Should Start Making Time For Again

     

Nov. 13, 2013

By Brianna Wiest

 

1. Writing things by hand. Letters to friends, lists for the store, goals for the week, notes for lovers, thank you cards and memos to coworkers. Digital communication is easy and convenient but ask anybody: there’s a huge difference between texting someone to say that you love them and hope they have a great day and writing it on a note and leaving it next to their bed.
2. Savoring time to do nothing. Taking a cue from pre-industrialized society and cultures that enjoy siestas and long, drawn-out, sit-down teas that serve no other purpose than to spend time enjoying the time you have.
3. Thinking before responding. We’ve become too conditioned to require things immediately. Someone asks a question, and we have to respond that second. Such was not the case before instant messaging and comment threads. A sign of true intelligence and confidence, I think, is someone who takes time to consider the question at hand in a little more depth, and then offers a response.
4. Cooking a nice meal just for the sake of doing so. It really trains you to defy your need for instant gratification and of course puts you in touch with something that’s very human and can be lovely if done right.
5. Getting really dressed up for no other reason than just wanting to.
6. Books. Actual hard copy books that you can scribble notes in and mark off sections of and smell ink through and hear the sound of turning pages and bending spines while you read.
7. Making phone calls to relatives for no other reason than to just say hi, and to ask how they’re doing.
8. Disconnecting from technology frequently enough that we won’t be anxious and feeling like we’re missing something when we try to do so for an extended period of time.
9. Celebrating things with long, multiple course dinners that we hold for people as opposed to just drinking ourselves into an oblivion and being belligerent (that has it’s time and place, of course, but having thoughtful, celebratory dinners is a dying art).

10. Cleaning because it’s satisfying and doing things like painting walls or getting fresh flowers just because it’s therapeutic.

11. Spending time with kids, and doing kid things with them. They just know what’s up.
12. Answering things in a timely fashion, not putting off invitations and requests just because we can.
13. Making sure relationships are actually based on time spent with one another. People seem to be sustaining them through only digital means with increasing frequency and I can understand how that’s important if it’s temporarily long distance but in general, physically being with people is the only thing that will give you that sense of human connectedness.
14. Just sitting and listening to music. We’ve made music background noise in our everyday lives, but now and again we should just sit and enjoy it like people used to.
15. Traveling by train, or if that’s not possible, at least exploring places that you pass everyday. Especially if you live in a big city, there are always little hidden gems around that you won’t believe you lived without seeing while they were a block away from you all along.
16. Putting personal health and well-being first, as it often falls to the wayside in importance. This means, aside from the obvious, taking those personal days and using them to just relax. We’ve made such a quirky commodity out of enjoying napping and relaxing, as though doing so makes us boring and old. It doesn’t, it’s healthy.
17. Planning something, especially with someone else, as simple as dinner or as grandiose as a long vacation next year. You always need something to look forward to.
18. Stopping to talk to people throughout the day. Connecting with them genuinely, as such interaction is really important but is becoming increasingly less common. Turning our phones off when out to dinner (who even turns them off anymore?) and learning to not spend all of our time documenting whatever we’re doing for social media. It often takes away from the experience itself.

(Have anything to add? Email me and I'll add it on.)

15A Ride the bus. My niece and nephew were aghast when I told them I planned to ride the bus home to NC from their place in VA. I asked them, "When did you last ride the bus?" We laughed when they responded, "Oh, about 20 years ago!" Riding the bus does take twice as long as driving. Here are the reasons to go Greyhound.

1. Leave the driving to them.

2. Economical means of travel. Fares are quite reasonable. My husband and I choose to own and maintain one car. Sometimes the car isn't available to one of us, and the other one takes public transportation which is rather limited where we live unfortunately.

 3. Meet interesting people you'd never have the opportunity to meet otherwise.

 

Be Grateful: Say  Thank you God for the little (tremendous )gifts, such as hearing  the song of a meadow lark, watching a gorgeous sunset, the smell of  much needed rain,, accomplishing something and knowing you'd been helped, etc etc

 

I am very fortunate - I get to do all but 14 and 15. One of the best tricks is to have a dumb phone.

 
This is beautiful and meaningful and just what we all need to read and practice! I'm going to share it and I'll also make a point of trying to follow it. I'll have to print it out for that since my memory ain't what it use to be.   - Terry
p.s. My 8 yr. old granddaughter asked me to teach her how to write cursive. She didn't call it that of course but I knew what she meant. I wrote out all the caps and lower cases so she could practice it. I'm not sure that they even teach it anymore but I'll encourage her to learn it. She also writes and receives letters from her slightly older cousin who lives in Texas.